Success demands deep focus, long blocks of solitude, obsessive energy, saying “no” constantly, delayed gratification
Social/romantic life wants frequent presence, emotional availability, spontaneity, saying “yes” more, immediate reward
These forever pull in the opposite direction. It's not possible to be on one side without sacrificing the other side. We need both sides in our lives, otherwise we miss out on a fundamentally wonderful aspect of living.
For me, what works is understanding this love-work spectrum and finding something that works for you. Try not to dwell too far on one side for too long.